把朋友圈关掉的那些天

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进入八月不久，我就关掉了朋友圈。在那之前很久，我已经取消了朋友圈信息更新的提示红点，而这一次，我是彻底地、从设置里关闭了这项功能。
两个原因。一个是朋友圈里的气氛会对我造成无价值的困扰，消费了我的精力和情绪；另一点是它极大的消耗了我为数不算多的碎片时间，而我本可以用这些时间学习更结构化的知识的。
萌生这个想法已经是数月以前的事情，但我总害怕丢失热门信息，无法follow朋友的动向，因此下不了决心。而促成我下这个决定的，则是《精进》里的一句话。

对泛滥的资讯保持警惕，把更多的目光投向那些被“时间之尺”筛选过的经典作品上，可以避免无谓的躁动。从心智的成长层面上讲，这种“复古”也恰是最有效率的。你不如想象，和那些历史上的杰出人物做朋友，就如同把他们加为微信好友，每天捧读他们的作品，就如同刷朋友圈，这时你或许会发现，这个朋友圈丝毫不比你现实好友的朋友圈无趣，甚至更加引人入胜。

是啊，没有那么多事情必须知道，且不论各种低价值信息，大部分的热门新闻也只能维持2-3天的热度，错过了也没有什么损失，现在还有人在讨论英国脱欧吗？朋友动态更不是那么重要的事情，比起别人买了一个包，去了哪里旅游，把时间投在关注自己的成长和内心上明显更值得。
关掉朋友圈以后，我的时间大量的投到了阅读上。不到一个月的时间里我看完了三本书，还有两本书看完了大半，一本看了小半。如果是平时，我很可能一本都看不完。通过阅读，我能感觉到自己坚硬的大脑被撬动，脚踩到湿润的泥土里长出了根，在忙碌的同时还能感觉到幸福和满足。某一天遛狗的时候，我抬头看了看星空，猛然发现自己已经很久没有做这个动作了。在拥有智能手机之前，我在夜晚会习惯性的看看星空，从宇宙汲取短暂的愉悦与宁静。而有了智能手机以后，我的生活除了忙碌，就是下拉，刷新，下拉，刷新。
我的情绪也变得更平静了。不用看同事在朋友圈拍须遛马，不用看项目发了篇文章大家都在同事分组里积极转发，不用看暴发户炫富，心机boy刷加班。我知道有人会说，你可以不在意这些呀。但我的内心没有那么强大，还是容易受外界干扰。那么，就用适合自己的方式隔离起来，不也挺好的吗？没有必要假装坚强，整天给自己做心理辅导也很消耗能量的呢。
不用朋友圈的日子里，我会去没几个朋友的微博，或者instagram上发一些状态和图片，记录自己的生活。 说来有趣，从twitter大火到人人发微博时，我完全不是用户，当时的微博太嘈杂，有价值的内容被严重稀释。反而是在人们逃离微博、走向朋友圈的日子里，我开始使用它。因为如今沉淀下来的，是更优质的账号和内容。而且因为没有那么多的强关系在看，在微博上更新也没有朋友圈里表演自己生活的感觉，更自由，更放松。
二十多天过去了，我没有把这个功能重新开启的打算。我当时也没想到一个小小的开关能吞噬掉那么多的精力和时间。其实，并没有那么多紧急的非要处理的信息，也没有那么多热门到非要知道的信息，更没有那么多不知道就落伍了的知识。关掉RTX，屏蔽朋友圈，少刷知乎，斩掉不必要的羁绊，排除无用干扰，这样才能有成片的时间去进行结构化学习，深入思考，关注内心。还在等电梯时刷朋友圈吗？不妨试试看用一两分钟的时间看几页书吧。

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